“Friendship transcends disappearance: and enduring friendship goes on after death, the exchange only transmuted by absence, the relationship advancing and maturing in a silent internal conversational way even after one-half of the bond has passed on” — David Whyte, “Consolations, The Heart Aroused.”
Yes, that’s what is going on... that is what I am experiencing. Death, does not win, I still am with her... We remain together.
you died on
Christmas eve
i in my grief
thought i should go
with you
after such a
magnificent love
affair
this bond of ours
certainly could never
ever fracture
ever end
40 years
but the hospice nurse
returned
that sad afternoon
my love
this amazing
woman
no longer
breathed
no
I emphatically said
you cannot take
her
there are things
that must be
done
promises to
keep
eyes to close
prayers to ease
departure
a cherished body to wash
anoint
incense
rising
her to dress
you must understand
she cannot be taken
you cannot have
her
i need
time
one last night
to
vigil
coffee at sunrise
familiar
celtic music
those promises to
keep
you can’t
have her
promises mean
something
promises
connect eternally
and
big ones
can never be broken..
I know of those promises even death can't break. It feels good, it feels right to keep them.
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